Grief and Loss
Going through the grieving process is one of the most difficult events everyone has to go through… and nobody should have to go through that alone. We at Cebu Evergreen would like to extend our deepest condolences by offering caring advice and our wholehearted support with a variety of compiled grieving resources.
Understanding Grief
Grief is an emotional response to loss that is experienced differently by each person. It is only natural to feel confused and endure difficult emotions when undergoing the grieving process – the emotional suffering endured when a loved one has been taken away.
The 5 Stages of Loss and Grief
The stages of mourning are universal and are experienced by people from all walks of life. Mourning occurs in response to an individual’s own terminal illness or to the death of a valued being, human or animal. There are five stages of normal grief. They were first proposed by Elsabeth Kubler-Ross in her 1969 book “On Death and Dying.”
In our bereavement, we spend different lengths of time working through each step and express each stage more or less intensely. The five stages do not necessarily occur in order. We often move between stages before achieving a more peaceful acceptance of death. Many of us are not afforded the luxury of time required to achieve this final stage of grief. The death of your loved one might inspire you to evaluate your own feelings of mortality. Throughout each stage, a common thread of hope emerges. As long as there is life, there is hope. As long as there is hope, there is life.
Many people do not experience the stages in order, which is okay. The key to understanding the stages is not to feel like you must go through every one of them, in precise order. They are universal and are experienced by people from all walks of life. Mourning occurs in response to an individual’s own terminal illness or to the death of a valued being, human or animal. There are five stages of normal grief. In our bereavement, we spend different lengths of time working through each step and express each stage more or less intensely. The five stages do not necessarily occur in order.
Books on Grief
- On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
- Conquering the Mysteries and Lies of Grief by Sherry Russell
- I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Suriving, Coping and Healing After the Death of a Loved One by Brook Noel
- I’m Grieving as Fast as I can: How young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal by Linda Sones Feinberg
- Living When a Loved One Has Died by Earl Grollman
- Grieving the Loss of Someone You Love: Daily Meditations to Help You Through the Grieving Process by Ray Mitsch
- How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies by Therese Rando
- Fatherless Women: How We Change After We Lose Our Dads by Clea Simon
- When the Bough Breaks: Forever After the Death of a Son or Daughter by Judith R.Bernstein
- The Bereaved Parent by Harriett S. Schiff
- After Suicide by John H. Hewitt
- No Time To Say Goodbye: Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One by Carla Fine
- To Begin Again by Rabbi Naomi Levy
Websites on Grief
- New Ways to Think About Grief
- Coping With Death and Grief
- Good Grief
- What is Grief Really Like?
- Grief and Loss Articles
Suggested grief sites
- Grief Loss Recovery
- HelpGuide.org
- Mayo Clinic
- WebMD - Mental Health Coping
- Psych Central – Preparing for Grief
- Psych central – 7 Tips to Help with Grief
- Compassion Books
Online grief support groups
